Seramat Andu Gawai.....

Before I start, Happy belated Gawai Dayak to all my "kaban-belayan". Ngajih ka kita gayu guru gerai nyamai, lantang senang ngibun menua.

My family has the tradition of only having gawai eve dinner at my mom's place. This year because all my in-laws (from my husband's side) from outstation (KL and Miri) came back for the occasion; we decided to miss the dinner at Sri Ijah and headed to kampung instead.

And of cause, my mom-in-law managed to come up with a sumptuous meal for everybody. My only regret; I didn't take any photos of the occasion.

Another tradition is the visiting tradition. The family (I Meant :FAMILY; Dad, Mom, Ivy & hubby with 3 sons, Terry(sometimes), I & hubby, Ezra & Beth, Anddy & David & Snah.) We will sometimes go in two or three cars. Every year we always visit the same houses. Sometimes I wonder whether people find us annoying by visiting in a large group like that.

I do like the visiting tradition my family is doing because somehow the spot light wouldn't be on one person but a group as a whole and I feel secure about that. I meant - It open a door for me to know them well but not exposing myself too much. It is not a bad thing, It just gives me space!!!

Another tradition that we are trying to start is the gathering of the Sanub. Sanub was my dad's dad (my grand) so you get the idea. We had such fun!!!!! We were suppose to have one before Gawai but my uncle Sehat (dad youngest brother) father-in-law passed away a week before the occasion so they had to postpone it till next year. But that doesn't stopped my cousins (my dad's elder brother kids) for having our own private party. Check my face book with all the photos. These photos were taken at oe of those gathering last year.

My cuzsss and aunty

My uncles - Sanub's sons

What we made them do.....

What a week!!!!! So many projects...... so little time, I need a laptop. If only somebody can give me one. LOL!!!!!!!

Actually, I just came back from dinner@Sri Ijah. We had mee soup; as usual. I had Martini on the rock and they said I AM DRUNK!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!

My 2nd PTA

yeah.... a mother's work is never finish. I went for my girl's school PTA meeting yesterday; as if I have nothing better to do - but the MOTH kind of got excited after attending my boy's PTA meeting a week before and would like to see how's this one will be.

As usual the response were very poor. The school has around 600 students but the only less than 40 parents were there. The teachers were there because it was their duty and they were not given the choice but for a parents to be there; well... it was a choice. I will try to make a point to attend this kind of meeting because it involves my children's well being - I want them to study in a conducive environment and I want to know what is going on in the school.

I have to congratulate the committee for doing a good job. They ran their activities well, garnered enough funds to help the school and the balance sheet were in order and fantastic. My boy's PTA should learn from my girl's PTA!!!!!

I had a good Sunday - with the Lord by my side, who wouldn't. I hope you had one too. Enjoy the 4days week ya.

Happy BDay Luv!!!!!!

I hope it is still not late to published this. We had an argument a day before his birthday. It was about how much he spent on his first wife. We are tight and spending like that really worried me but I guess he is also right coz we rely very much on her, we need to really take good care of her. I just need him to tell me the truth sometimes. It was not so much about the money(even though it was the main contributor) but in being honest. I know he did it so; I wouldn't freak-out. Just throw it to me; I might retaliate but I will bounce back and be ok - we will be ok.

SOOOOOOO........ as the Irish put it:-

“May you never steal, lie or cheat. But if you have to steal, then steal away my sorrows. If you have to lie, then lie with me all the nights of our life. If you have to cheat, then cheat death because I don’t want to live a day without you”

Happy Birthday. We love you Maysun Redjo - wonderful husband to me and a caring dad to Ezra & Beth.

13th May 2010

ps - 1st wife - His car

2nd - His sports (soccer, futsal & badminton)

Sorry.....

for the absence. Only when I read the news this morning that I had the itch to log-in again. Yeah.. Kenny Sia kind of reminded me that blogging use to be my passion. Don't know where I went wrong?. Time? I've been playing my kid's PC games (I am a wedding planner in Wedding Dash...). Story? I've been out and dining almost every week mostly with Fiona (yeah... I took some tasty photos).

I just ran out of ideas and I do feel I lack the presentation....

Anyway, I attended my first PTA today. I wanted to bring up some issues that I feel necessary. My son has been saying that his math teacher is not really approachable. The kids are so scared of her. Even to ask question.... I just feel that she should be more willing. I mean she threw books too. If you are a teacher and it is your duty to give your pupil the best you can give, to show them what they don't know. I think it is ones proudest moment when we teach a person and that person actually understand it. It's hard work, I realised; that's why I am not one.

When I reached the meeting I found that that is not the platform I can use to voice my concern about a teacher. So sorry Presscar, look like we need to find another way of solving this issue.

Anyway, one thing that I learned was, every parents should come to their children's PTA and get an insight of what's going on in their school. One may not be in the AJK (committee) but being an outsider is more fruitfull, at least you are informed and involved.

So the next meeting I am gearing up all my friends to be involved.

I am rested.....

Today is the last day of my leave. What a week. It is not enough people. I wish I can go on leave forever and still get pay - dream on......

Did I tell you the MOTH managed to paint half of the wall of my living room. I AM happy even though I was a bit unsure about the colour at first. We have to put the project on hold.... I'll post the photo when we are done.

This photo was taken when he was half way doing it. I just want to show the difference.. I kind of like it. If we manage to finish the project I will let you know.

If I have the power, I will try to make you happy in every ways I can - avoiding all the hurts, pains, unhappiness and hard ache. It will be a world of no stress and just pure bliss and happiness. We will go through life with no worries..... and we don't have to deal with silly and stupid issues that binds us to a point of breaking us.

But I am not God and I don't have the answer to your questions. I breaks sometimes but that doesn't make me any more weak. It is just life, you go through phases. You wouldn't know the cause of your action until you take that leap. Nobody says it is easy - it will pull you down, breaks you and you sometimes loose hope but you can count on the divine power that is more mighty, more powerful to hold you.

And after all that has been said and done nothing seems matter but HIM.

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How do you measure a happy marriage?

Or even success for that matter. Does having loads of monies or materials things leads to it and does that really counts?

You must be wondering where I am going with this questions. Well…. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately (pardon my absence; apart from having a corrupted PC, I have been busy being busy..).

I have a colleague who is still single and our goal for this year is to find him a good girl to marry. So that’s our target this year. So far he went to one(1) blind date. She was introduced by a kopitiam taukey to him; very nice and good girl (mind you, she’s a Pastor). Unfortunately, no spark flew during the date and I was the most frustrated one – as if…… I mean this guy ever told me the reason he is not committing himself is because he is afraid that he will turn out to be like most of his friends – Separated or divorced. It upset him so much; he gets cold feet when he thinks of commitment.

“For riches or for poorer, In sickness or in health, till death do us part…” Marriages… It is so sacred to me that I can’t even think my life without the other half. I believe in a marriage constitution, I believe in keeping and staying forever in ones marriages – until death do us part. I learn this from my own mom.

There was a period of time when I was the only one home with my parent and I’ve seen how at that time dad ‘ill-treated’ mom and she just could not do anything because Dad is ALL to her and she need to stay for our sake but I guess the truth was then women didn’t had the guts to say ‘that’s it, enough is enough, I am leaving you!!!’. I am glad Mom stayed and I am happy they found HIM in time to understand that although they gets on each other’s nerve they have a mission to complete and came to the realization that they will grow old together. That really requires a lot of patience but now she ‘tormented’ him by ignoring him when he is in one of those moods!!! Bravo mom.. Power to the woman…

One important rule I learn from Mom is quoted from the Bible itself. It says whenever you are angry, don’t bring it in until the sun set (Ephesians 4:26) – I tell you; it is easier said than done. But I will surely get it if she finds out I drag it. Love is not enough, people…. Even so much more – immaturities. Guys wake up!!! These are the era where women are empowered. They discovered they don’t necessary need a husband or a man in their life. They have learned to be independent, knowledgeable and some even brings the bread home. Think twice if you intend to flirt…….;) You know who you are. Don’t even think to give her a second grading in your list. She is the most important person in your life – not your car, your games or your pets!!! Cherish her, shower her with all the attention; she will appreciate it and when you have children, be the strength, the fortress, the foundation for your family. Be involved.

I don’t know which is harder, keeping a marriage or letting it go……

I heard this a few days ago. It is in regards of mending a relationship. “We don’t just make it stick (together) but we make it glued. If it still doesn’t stick that means the pieces doesn’t fit.”

I am sorry for my friends that had to let go… My heart goes out to you for I care and I believe you deserve the best of best God can give you. I was and still saddened by it so much. It is harder if you have kids; unless they have grown up and you are able to make senses.

I wouldn’t judge you. Do what makes you happy. For once, do it because it is for you – you deserve it. It wouldn’t be easy initially but like what I told you, gear up all your support system – some may not agree with what you are doing and when you are unsure don’t only depends on your guts feeling, look-up more to the divine intervention, have peace, pick up the pieces and go on.