I hope it is still not late to published this. We had an argument a day before his birthday. It was about how much he spent on his first wife. We are tight and spending like that really worried me but I guess he is also right coz we rely very much on her, we need to really take good care of her. I just need him to tell me the truth sometimes. It was not so much about the money(even though it was the main contributor) but in being honest. I know he did it so; I wouldn't freak-out. Just throw it to me; I might retaliate but I will bounce back and be ok - we will be ok.
SOOOOOOO........ as the Irish put it:-
“May you never steal, lie or cheat. But if you have to steal, then steal away my sorrows. If you have to lie, then lie with me all the nights of our life. If you have to cheat, then cheat death because I don’t want to live a day without you”
Happy Birthday. We love you Maysun Redjo - wonderful husband to me and a caring dad to Ezra & Beth.
for the absence. Only when I read the news this morning that I had the itch to log-in again. Yeah.. Kenny Sia kind of reminded me that blogging use to be my passion. Don't know where I went wrong?. Time? I've been playing my kid's PC games (I am a wedding planner in Wedding Dash...). Story? I've been out and dining almost every week mostly with Fiona (yeah... I took some tasty photos).
I just ran out of ideas and I do feel I lack the presentation....
Anyway, I attended my first PTA today. I wanted to bring up some issues that I feel necessary. My son has been saying that his math teacher is not really approachable. The kids are so scared of her. Even to ask question.... I just feel that she should be more willing. I mean she threw books too. If you are a teacher and it is your duty to give your pupil the best you can give, to show them what they don't know. I think it is ones proudest moment when we teach a person and that person actually understand it. It's hard work, I realised; that's why I am not one.
When I reached the meeting I found that that is not the platform I can use to voice my concern about a teacher. So sorry Presscar, look like we need to find another way of solving this issue.
Anyway, one thing that I learned was, every parents should come to their children's PTA and get an insight of what's going on in their school. One may not be in the AJK (committee) but being an outsider is more fruitfull, at least you are informed and involved.
So the next meeting I am gearing up all my friends to be involved.
Today is the last day of my leave. What a week. It is not enough people. I wish I can go on leave forever and still get pay - dream on......
Did I tell you the MOTH managed to paint half of the wall of my living room. I AM happy even though I was a bit unsure about the colour at first. We have to put the project on hold.... I'll post the photo when we are done.
This photo was taken when he was half way doing it. I just want to show the difference.. I kind of like it. If we manage to finish the project I will let you know.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
If I have the power, I will try to make you happy in every ways I can - avoiding all the hurts, pains, unhappiness and hard ache. It will be a world of no stress and just pure bliss and happiness. We will go through life with no worries..... and we don't have to deal with silly and stupid issues that binds us to a point of breaking us.
But I am not God and I don't have the answer to your questions. I breaks sometimes but that doesn't make me any more weak. It is just life, you go through phases. You wouldn't know the cause of your action until you take that leap. Nobody says it is easy - it will pull you down, breaks you and you sometimes loose hope but you can count on the divine power that is more mighty, more powerful to hold you.
And after all that has been said and done nothing seems matter but HIM.
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Saturday, March 27, 2010
How do you measure a happy marriage?
Or even success for that matter. Does having loads of monies or materials things leads to it and does that really counts?
You must be wondering where I am going with this questions. Well…. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately (pardon my absence; apart from having a corrupted PC, I have been busy being busy..).
I have a colleague who is still single and our goal for this year is to find him a good girl to marry. So that’s our target this year. So far he went to one(1) blind date. She was introduced by a kopitiam taukey to him; very nice and good girl (mind you, she’s a Pastor). Unfortunately, no spark flew during the date and I was the most frustrated one – as if…… I mean this guy ever told me the reason he is not committing himself is because he is afraid that he will turn out to be like most of his friends – Separated or divorced. It upset him so much; he gets cold feet when he thinks of commitment.
“For riches or for poorer, In sickness or in health, till death do us part…” Marriages… It is so sacred to me that I can’t even think my life without the other half. I believe in a marriage constitution, I believe in keeping and staying forever in ones marriages – until death do us part. I learn this from my own mom.
There was a period of time when I was the only one home with my parent and I’ve seen how at that time dad ‘ill-treated’ mom and she just could not do anything because Dad is ALL to her and she need to stay for our sake but I guess the truth was then women didn’t had the guts to say ‘that’s it, enough is enough, I am leaving you!!!’. I am glad Mom stayed and I am happy they found HIM in time to understand that although they gets on each other’s nerve they have a mission to complete and came to the realization that they will grow old together. That really requires a lot of patience but now she ‘tormented’ him by ignoring him when he is in one of those moods!!! Bravo mom.. Power to the woman…
One important rule I learn from Mom is quoted from the Bible itself. It says whenever you are angry, don’t bring it in until the sun set (Ephesians 4:26) – I tell you; it is easier said than done. But I will surely get it if she finds out I drag it. Love is not enough, people…. Even so much more – immaturities. Guys wake up!!! These are the era where women are empowered. They discovered they don’t necessary need a husband or a man in their life. They have learned to be independent, knowledgeable and some even brings the bread home. Think twice if you intend to flirt…….;) You know who you are. Don’t even think to give her a second grading in your list. She is the most important person in your life – not your car, your games or your pets!!! Cherish her, shower her with all the attention; she will appreciate it and when you have children, be the strength, the fortress, the foundation for your family. Be involved.
I don’t know which is harder, keeping a marriage or letting it go……
I heard this a few days ago. It is in regards of mending a relationship. “We don’t just make it stick (together) but we make it glued. If it still doesn’t stick that means the pieces doesn’t fit.”
I am sorry for my friends that had to let go… My heart goes out to you for I care and I believe you deserve the best of best God can give you. I was and still saddened by it so much. It is harder if you have kids; unless they have grown up and you are able to make senses.
I wouldn’t judge you. Do what makes you happy. For once, do it because it is for you – you deserve it. It wouldn’t be easy initially but like what I told you, gear up all your support system – some may not agree with what you are doing and when you are unsure don’t only depends on your guts feeling, look-up more to the divine intervention, have peace, pick up the pieces and go on.
It was such a good weekend for me and Monday and Tuesday being an extra holidays added to the fun. I didn't feel like going back to work but butter and bread have to be put on the table. My kids had an extra day off yesterday so I let them slept over at mom's so they didn't have to wake up as early as me.
I was pissed off with Ezra when he suddenly mentioned that he had not finished his homework. This was the second time; he rather lied than to spend his CNY break doing what he was supposed to do. Boys!!!!! I had to stayed up until nearly midnight just to help him. Believe me when I say their homework are so hard. I ever failed his math!!!!! and of coz he cried - I spanked him and although I felt guilty after that but I had to do it. I explained to him I love him that was why I had to discipline him. He is grounded for 2 weeks and are being refrain from going to Anddy's clinic which he and the sister likes to do every weekends.
He seemed to be able to take it and I am going to be more strict with them now. Lord, just give me the wisdom and the strength....
Let's welcome the tiger!!!!. Needless to say; I was also busy this new year - busy eating!!!!!! Today is the second day of the tiger year. I spent half of the day feeding the rascals (I am trying to be a good mother..) Of coz, woke up around 9am upon hearing the MOTH leaving the house to help the mother in Kampung. He decided to leave the rascals with me coz it was raining. Poor kids, they didn't have breakfast before the father left. So searched the kitchen for things that I can possibly turn into something edible AND nutritious. Ended up making scones!!!!! Kids didn't fancy it. By the time they had breakfast it was lunch time. Emmmmmm so tired!!!!!!!! and I haven't taken my bath yet!!!!
Searched the kitchen again. I decided to cook mee hoon goreng. I had dried shrimp blended with red onion and chili, I had dory fish and broccoli and egg. Everything thrown in and walla!!! Kids loved it.
The kids were promised a swim by the uncle at Four Points. So around 5.30pm we went over. It was quiet......
I went over to tHe Spring to meet up with old friends. Unfortunately the place was so pricey we decided to go to Top Spot for seafood. Being the second day of CNY the only stall that was open were the Muslims. I am not being racist here but it was a very poor service, they cut throat, greedy and you just name it; you got it. I guess it happens every way during this time of the year.
I am sorry for my overseas friends; Hsioa Fern, Edward and baby Gavin who came all the way from Seattle, Jo from London, Angeline and hubby and Florence from KL and Aimee from Bintulu. I should have been a more proactive host.
Next trip, I will open my home to you and serve you all the food you love so much and didn't get when you are all away.
Have a safe journey home and hope to see you soon.
