That's the MOTH & Me @ Tanah Lot

I couldn't believe that a year has passed by since my trip to Bali. It was an exciting trip and looking back, I am amazed at how me and the MOTH survived "our crisis" and everyday I thank the Lord for providing and never letting us out of His sight. At times it was difficult and it still does but I believe at that one point when you feel the lowest, that is the time when you have to gather your strength and soar higher. We are living by His grace now, not because we have to but because we want and we NEED to and as long as we depend on our own strength we can never see Him working in us. So we are letting go......

On a lighter side, my friend, Fiona and I have been talking about how at our work place, all the front line personnel consist of those in their mid thirties and in 10 years down the road most of us will be in our late forties. Imagine being serve by grannies. I am not insulting for I speak of myself. Unfortunately, there is nothing I can do unless I resign; still the company might not replace me as at now we do have the man power and with evolving technologies they might do away with human touches. The only field available is in the sales team. I wouldn't want to do sales although I've seen, financially lives changed for some of those who is reaping the fruits of their sweat. I envy the fruits but not the sweat. I've joined loads of those.... Avon, Elken.... you know what I mean but I am just not meant for it. I am accepting the fact that I'll be a working ant for the rest of my life but hey, it pays the bills and feed mouths, so I am contented.

With effect from July 2010 the maternity leave was raised from 60 days to 90 days. Fiona finds that hilarious and as for me.... I am still hoping. I think it is ok for the government to do that but for a company that relies on manpower that produces high level of productivity, hiring women would be their last resort. Although the reason is more so that mother and baby can bond, giving time for them to nurture through breastfeeding and spending time together. Raising children is not easy these days. With both parents working, more depends on nursery, babysitters, playschools to take care of the children and only spend quality time maybe on weekends. Growing up then were more easy. Children were exposed to elements but parents were not scared. It's different now, sometimes I feel we live in fear. Fear for our children, no, fear for what might or will happen to our children and that makes things worsts. But you can't blame them for feeling like that.

If I am given that 90days to nurture, I would and hopefully I can go back to work again and do my best to "pay" my boss for their generosity. My point is if all bosses were to think $$$$$$ and refuses to acknowledged that indeed women play a very big role in our society then our society can never grow mature and we will forever fall behind. Sometimes when you react to that action of giving, you are actually receiving the blessing. And Women, please don't misused the trust and benefit. POWER TO THE WOMAN!!!!!!!!

Where 's my weekends........

I am having Monday's blues......

This morning, the alarm didn't ring. It took us 10 minutes to get ready and we were on the road at 7.10am!!! and of coz the kids were late for school.

My weekends routine from now will be filled; driving the kids to their activities. I've enrolled Beth for piano lessons starting middle of this month and she will start class at 11.30am for an hour. After lunch, she will be off to the Girl's Brigade in church and only finishes at 5pm. Ezra has not decided/joined on any activities so far but I have to commend him for helping at Toda's Ark and Toda's Farm.

The MOTH has finally agreed on going to THE Church and I am very happy coz all my family members are there but I just wish the service starts early (8am). For me that time is neither there nor here...... The reality is when it comes to God, it is not about me at all....

I love routine and I value the fact that I go through my days systematically. Where am I heading?

The fact that I didn't do anything productively over the weekend, sucks!!!!

BUT, I finally bought a Note Book for myself but I was unable to go online yesterday. Imagine the stress and on top of that didn't managed to snooze....

My Kids.

School holidays is going to be over by this weekends. At the beginning of it, I had so many plans but I guess as time flies, you wonder......

Anyway, I enrolled Ezra & Beth for the Bible camp last Friday at St. Faith. Unfortunately Beth had to be quarantined for the Hands, Foot & Mouth Disease - poor fellow. She was really looking forward to spending the night in church with the friends. As for Ezra, of coz he enjoyed himself.

They had a mini concert on Saturday night and we came late because the MOTH had to sent the little brother to the airport enrouted Kuala Lumpur. I missed the marching part but was in time to see the little boy singing and stomping his feet to the sound of the drums. At that time you cannot but feel emo - seeing the little fellow in-front singing when a few years back he was just MY little baby....

I believe that church plays a very important part in ones lives. They gives support, they teaches values that we requires and yes, they made me what I am today. I wouldn't be me if it wasn't for things I've learnt from my Youth involvement in church. Somebody ever tell me - "Let your kids be in church and most of your problems are solved".

When they were little, I used to bring them in a baby basket, then a stroller until they know how to behave. In spite of the loud music they seemed rather relaxed and I guess they grew up in this environment and I am pleased.

Then, I wanted Beth to learn Piano but really the timing is suck!!! So I guess I have to hold that thought.

I am working on a project at the moment (NO!!! it's not baby-making) but I can't disclose it yet. What ever it is, I do need your support. Until then.....

Seramat Andu Gawai.....

Before I start, Happy belated Gawai Dayak to all my "kaban-belayan". Ngajih ka kita gayu guru gerai nyamai, lantang senang ngibun menua.

My family has the tradition of only having gawai eve dinner at my mom's place. This year because all my in-laws (from my husband's side) from outstation (KL and Miri) came back for the occasion; we decided to miss the dinner at Sri Ijah and headed to kampung instead.

And of cause, my mom-in-law managed to come up with a sumptuous meal for everybody. My only regret; I didn't take any photos of the occasion.

Another tradition is the visiting tradition. The family (I Meant :FAMILY; Dad, Mom, Ivy & hubby with 3 sons, Terry(sometimes), I & hubby, Ezra & Beth, Anddy & David & Snah.) We will sometimes go in two or three cars. Every year we always visit the same houses. Sometimes I wonder whether people find us annoying by visiting in a large group like that.

I do like the visiting tradition my family is doing because somehow the spot light wouldn't be on one person but a group as a whole and I feel secure about that. I meant - It open a door for me to know them well but not exposing myself too much. It is not a bad thing, It just gives me space!!!

Another tradition that we are trying to start is the gathering of the Sanub. Sanub was my dad's dad (my grand) so you get the idea. We had such fun!!!!! We were suppose to have one before Gawai but my uncle Sehat (dad youngest brother) father-in-law passed away a week before the occasion so they had to postpone it till next year. But that doesn't stopped my cousins (my dad's elder brother kids) for having our own private party. Check my face book with all the photos. These photos were taken at oe of those gathering last year.

My cuzsss and aunty

My uncles - Sanub's sons

What we made them do.....

What a week!!!!! So many projects...... so little time, I need a laptop. If only somebody can give me one. LOL!!!!!!!

Actually, I just came back from dinner@Sri Ijah. We had mee soup; as usual. I had Martini on the rock and they said I AM DRUNK!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!

My 2nd PTA

yeah.... a mother's work is never finish. I went for my girl's school PTA meeting yesterday; as if I have nothing better to do - but the MOTH kind of got excited after attending my boy's PTA meeting a week before and would like to see how's this one will be.

As usual the response were very poor. The school has around 600 students but the only less than 40 parents were there. The teachers were there because it was their duty and they were not given the choice but for a parents to be there; well... it was a choice. I will try to make a point to attend this kind of meeting because it involves my children's well being - I want them to study in a conducive environment and I want to know what is going on in the school.

I have to congratulate the committee for doing a good job. They ran their activities well, garnered enough funds to help the school and the balance sheet were in order and fantastic. My boy's PTA should learn from my girl's PTA!!!!!

I had a good Sunday - with the Lord by my side, who wouldn't. I hope you had one too. Enjoy the 4days week ya.

Happy BDay Luv!!!!!!

I hope it is still not late to published this. We had an argument a day before his birthday. It was about how much he spent on his first wife. We are tight and spending like that really worried me but I guess he is also right coz we rely very much on her, we need to really take good care of her. I just need him to tell me the truth sometimes. It was not so much about the money(even though it was the main contributor) but in being honest. I know he did it so; I wouldn't freak-out. Just throw it to me; I might retaliate but I will bounce back and be ok - we will be ok.

SOOOOOOO........ as the Irish put it:-

“May you never steal, lie or cheat. But if you have to steal, then steal away my sorrows. If you have to lie, then lie with me all the nights of our life. If you have to cheat, then cheat death because I don’t want to live a day without you”

Happy Birthday. We love you Maysun Redjo - wonderful husband to me and a caring dad to Ezra & Beth.

13th May 2010

ps - 1st wife - His car

2nd - His sports (soccer, futsal & badminton)

Sorry.....

for the absence. Only when I read the news this morning that I had the itch to log-in again. Yeah.. Kenny Sia kind of reminded me that blogging use to be my passion. Don't know where I went wrong?. Time? I've been playing my kid's PC games (I am a wedding planner in Wedding Dash...). Story? I've been out and dining almost every week mostly with Fiona (yeah... I took some tasty photos).

I just ran out of ideas and I do feel I lack the presentation....

Anyway, I attended my first PTA today. I wanted to bring up some issues that I feel necessary. My son has been saying that his math teacher is not really approachable. The kids are so scared of her. Even to ask question.... I just feel that she should be more willing. I mean she threw books too. If you are a teacher and it is your duty to give your pupil the best you can give, to show them what they don't know. I think it is ones proudest moment when we teach a person and that person actually understand it. It's hard work, I realised; that's why I am not one.

When I reached the meeting I found that that is not the platform I can use to voice my concern about a teacher. So sorry Presscar, look like we need to find another way of solving this issue.

Anyway, one thing that I learned was, every parents should come to their children's PTA and get an insight of what's going on in their school. One may not be in the AJK (committee) but being an outsider is more fruitfull, at least you are informed and involved.

So the next meeting I am gearing up all my friends to be involved.