Men are from Mars....

...and women are from Venus. Prior to this posting, I wrote something totally different from what I presented now. I was sad and still sad. I was emotional; on new year's eve. I was presented with two bad news. - Don't know whether I should share these with you guys. Both are about relationships; both, I hope can be saved because I love these 2 couples.

I wouldn't comment because I believe that if they really want to work things out between them, they need to communicate. A 3 years courting and a 10 years marriage are a very precious and significant event that I shared with these couples that maybe it is ME that is having difficulties in letting go........

Life experiences changes us, we become more mature, more competitive, might not be highly motivated by people around us but hey.... God made us different from each other so that we may learn the values of the other person; not so much so that they can be our business partner but our life partner; not so much because they are the one paying the mortgages but they share a roof over their heads where they learn to accept each other being.

Don't walk a head of each other, don't walk behind each other but walk together;with her/him.......

To you - you know who you are.....
Everybody has their own issue but don't make that issue a burden. No one expect you to handle life issues alone, that is why you have US (even though sometimes we are slow - but we always pulled through).

Be still.....

Woow..... Did I missed you?

I have been busy lately but i think it is not too late to say:

Merry Christmas

&

a Happy New Year 2009

I will be a way for a few days. Enjoy the holidays and hope to see you next year...

Rombongan Mak Ijah pergi meminang...

It was a memorable day for my brother David last night 19th December 2008, for last night he was engaged to Snah. Our party arrived at the uncle's place@Stutong around 7pm. David presented Snah with 5 trays of gifts or hantaran; a parang, head gears for both couple, hunting gears for David, a pair of rings, a bottle of wine(unlikely the Kayan's culture) and a pair of sarongs for S'nah and the mother. All these cost them around RM2000.00. (I am not complaining)

Did I missed anything?

Here, the party waiting for the 'occasion' to start. The 'hantaran' were laid nicely on the table.

The night started with Pastor Peter DeRun saying the opening prayers and Rev. Trevor Tinda solemnising the engagement.

Exchanging of rings between the couple.

Uniting the union with communion.

The couple - engaged.

Then we finished off with dinner and some entertainment from S'nah's family - dances and Sape playing. Check this photo out. It's me and hubby trying the head gear.



So, wait for the next chapter from me as the wedding planner.....

The tissue issue.

I love Saturday, I have to admit even though sometimes it is no fun without the other half. It is the day when my kids and I will have a lovely day outing with my two brothers and my parents (not in that order). We will have brunch and then car rides. We had ever reached Serian and Serikin...

Yesterday, we were at one eatery, RH Plaza for brunch. I have always love to come here becoz of it's locality and the choices of food especially the Penang Fried Kuay Tiaw and the HotPots - Ikan Masak Asam, Bak Kut Teh, Ka Cang Ma and Pork Leg.

But yesterday was an 'experience' for us. I had laksa and as usual I asked for tissue paper(I get messy with the lime and sambal, always...). The lady said "oh, tidak ada tisu, kalau mauk tisu pergi kaunter; beli 20 sen." I was pissed....

What kind of eatery will serve food without providing a basic needs like tissue paper. It is just like when you are done at the toilet and finding no tissue paper there!!!! Hey come on, is it just your measure to cut cost and make more monies. You are not an inexperience business people. For what I know your family own the 'gallery' next door and you earn a lot making tiles....... Tak kan tisu paper tak dapat provide kot.......

Hey... what goes around, comes around, maybe not your life time.........

Sunshine Day....

Last Wednesday, for the first time in my life (sakainya...) I went to The Coffee Bean with Fiona. Thanks, Fiona for making the time... We were supposed to brisk-walked.... What the heck..... We'll start next year.

I had Mocha and she went for Caramel and we shared a piece of Oreo Cheese - sinful.......

.....and the night before ( Monday night) on the way back from mom's, just becoz the kids slept over at mom's and just becoz....

we went to Starbuck@airport- dating....

I don't know what we had but it was fantastic and we shared a piece of Tiramisu cake..

Well after that, I couldn't sleep....... darn!!!!.

Anyway, let's change the subject.

We went to tHe Spring on Sunday, saja....just to bring the kids out. (It was nice to meet you Amelia and thanks for your support.....). Actually I went there to buy myself a pair of shoe coz it's my yearly entitlement.

Check out the Christmas tree...


Then around 9.15pm, we decided to go home but not before making a stop at the Big Apple......

We decided to wait outside for our ride home coz, I have to admit - my husband love for low and sporty car sometimes do us no good but it is still our car...

I was pissed becoz we had to wait for one hour for him to get out of the parking lot itself!!
It seemed that for no reason people just suddenly think like me!

tHe Spring Management, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR PARKING SYSTEM!!!!!!

The only compensation I had were the donuts....... It was sinful....(in anger - forgot to take photo of those 'nuts')

HfF

It is actually I club I belongs to. What does it stand for? Well for a start, we are a group of people who pull-in our "resources" every month and when we are "rich" enough, we splurge - on food. Hence we call ourselves HfF - " Humanity for Food" (LOL.....). It is just an evening of good food, good companion, good laugh, gossips and sharing. For Catherine's sake, an ex-member who is residing in Oregon, USA - no where in the states you'll get this kind of food...

Enjoy the shots......

As usual, Fiona with loads & loads of stories & gossips.

The mix vege I created with Fiona. (We just threw everything we like)



I recommend this crab with salted egg - my first but not my last

This was how my plate look when I was done... kenyangnya.....

Lin Loong Seafood 20th November 2008

Welcome to the club, Seno & Phil

My sister in-law walked down the isle this morning. She married Phil from Giam - not India; Kampung Giam, Jalan Puncak Borneo, Kuching. Both are teachers in Miri and with this occasion my in-laws has only the youngest boy to think of now.

The Bride & Groom; before leaving for St. James' Quop.

We pronounce you; husband & wife.

I just love this 'frame'

Evening event - interesting....

So, welcome to the world of married people and I just like to share an article from Saran's blog which I find very inspiring.

Getting married doesn't instantly make you selfless... it makes you realize how very selfish you can be at times. Getting married doesn't make you feel loved... it makes you realize love is more of a decision you make than a feeling you feel. Getting married doesn't take away loneliness... it makes you realize true companionship comes not when you demand it but rather when you give it to another person. So, what does marriage give? A beautiful chance to make the choice to ...
Laugh whether or not the jokes are funny. Love by folding his collar over his tie every morning. Pretend like you don't need flowers, but delight when he buys them anyway. Cheer him on through both failures and successes. Tell him he's a great man everyday. Thank God for the privilege of being his wife.

My Miracle Baby.....

My boy is 7 today. I call him my Miracle baby; the baby that I longed for; I prayed for; hope for. I was married for three years and nothing happened - I meant having baby. By the way, we will be into our 10th years of marriage this coming boxing day.

Then we discovered I had a dermoid cyst somewhere outside my right ovary - if I remember correctly. It was a testing time for me but luckily - no, it was by God's grace that I pulled through. During those trial times sometimes you just cannot even imagine on what terms should you base your faith or belief on but that was all I had at that time. My faith and belief in Him and I guess it was sufficient.

I went under the knife I think early April of 2001. They cut me under my bikini lines (LOL - as if I have those.....). The cyst was big 10x9cm at least(ya... the picture are mine). If you look closely you can see traces of fat tissues and even hairs and God knows what else.... WEIRD!!!!!!!!





I was on medical leave for three weeks and during my last week I experienced nausea, easily tired and I was late too. I thought the surgeon might have left something behind!!
Anyway, I was due for my last check up before returning to work and I told my gynae that I just feel soooo tired everyday; I would be napping even in the car during my rides to and from home; mom was taking care of me at that time - macam orang berpantang...

He scanned me and said "Well no wonder your ovary was a bit 'kembang' - you are pregnant".

I'm pregnant?. EMmmmmmmm........

I'm pregnant......

I'm pregnant!!!!!!.

What about the excessive morphine/pain killer that I took; not forgetting the medications/drugs - my foetus will be a drug addict!!!!. Will 'it' develop well?. Ya... that was the concern...... for everybody; later when they found out.

Of coz the husband got to know first; then mom & dad. The rest was history but some of the things that happened during my pregnancy were; 9/11 - I was scared becoz I was about to bring this child into the world that are not safe and also, that month I gila-gila and coloured (or they called it stripping) my hair blonde.... Ha! the nerve of me.

The first photo of the baby(foetus) on 25April2001 - although I couldn't understand the scanning....

Here, the baby were more visualized. I still could not comprehend it. This were dated 22May01.










Reality was setting in. This was taken on 25August01. See the shape of the head and the outline of the baby's body.....and we got to know we were having a boy.....

I was expected to deliver on 10Dec01 but by middle November, it was as if the water that was supposed to protect and nourish the baby were diminishing and I kind of remembered when we stayed in Damai early November, I felt as if my water broke - but because I was in the pool, I couldn't be sure.....

So my Oby/Gynae asked me to deliver the baby as soon as possible because the chances of him surviving were better outside than inside. I was scared......Will my baby be ok? Will I be ok? We decided to 'checked-in' on Sunday@8.00am@Sarawak GH.

Weirdly, I was also having "Braxton Hicks"(I hope the term is correct) the night before and in the morning I was a bit dilated. I couldn't remember whether I was induced but it was fast. I only need to push four times than he waaaaaaaaaa.....waaaaaaaas out. The pain was bearable too. I have to admit, I had an easy birth. Weighing at 1.95kg, he was considered premature. He was small and thin. They ran test on him at 4 am- it was painful to see, it really broke me at that time. I think we were there for 3 days and finally he was declared fit to go home........

Our first photo together - the first few days@home.

The first time I introduced him to the sun - he was 1 month old and putting on more weight

Look how proud and handsome he look here and he was just 4/5 months.













Trying to walk and getting more naughtier - 9 months








He is 2 here.. the baby I love so much...and he grow up so fast. I wish they stay like this forever but I guess the Lord has better plans for them. My prayer is that He will continue to mould him, direct him, teach him to be the person He wants him to be..

My Miracle baby....
EZRA NATHANIEL
Happy Birthday.
Know that you are loved....

Eagle's wings

I am on leave today until Friday. I do plan to have quality time with the kids. Furthermore tomorrow is the boy's 7th birthday. The plan was to go to Damai but had to postponed coz Maysun couldn't get the day off. Luckily I haven't told the kids of the plan or else; nag...nag...nag....

So what did we do today? NOTHING!!! By afternoon I asked everybody including the father who happened to be on sick leave - of tooth ache; to take a nap.

The kids grow up so fast.... We were looking at all photos and I was saying how adorable they were. Now, if I say one thing they will answer me two... And Ezra seems to be going through puberty even though he is just seven. He is so rebellious sometimes; I wish I can smack him but I just pray that the Lord gives me enough strength and wisdom to guide him all through these phases of life. Sometimes I do fear for him and sometimes for myself. Have I done enough for my own child? Am I doing it the right way? Are there any right way? What if ..........

Please Lord, help my kids to grow up under your wings. Help them learn to wait for you, then they have strenght to mount up with wings like the eagles. They shall walk and not be weary, they shall run and not fall. Help them to grow up to be like the eagles; full of courage, strong having faith in Him and everything a mother wishes for the children.....

So you guys out there, any useful advise?

We went Italian last night....

Yeah.... Last week we went for pizzas@pizza hut and ND blurted out how the spaghetti in white sauce look so tempting. So, Everlind the girlfren cited that she can do better and of coz we are 'family of food loving people' welcomed her suggestion to prepare it the coming week. For me.... it was as if someone put food directly in my mouth - if you know what I mean(and loving every single moment of it). I have to admit she cooks very well and we enjoy the sumptuous dinner. Thanks ya Lind.

Lind is serving.....

Abet taking his turn..

Look how Beth & Ezra are enjoying themselves

Wonder what's on her mind...

Ha!! another satisfying moment for him...

EMmmm what did I just said?....

Ha!!!! I like to welcome Frankie to my circle of bloggers. If I can, you surely do better.....

Want to hear some sick jokes?... This was by Andrew relayed by Emily.....

One day, the young cow came running home from the chicken village, crying with tears running down his cheeks. The older cow asked what's the matter and the young cow said the entire village of chicken tried to harm him and even gave him a good chased out of that place.

"You must have done something to provoke them. What did you say?" asked the old cow.

" All I said were goodbyes and don't know why they were so upset."

"Maybe it's not what you said but how you said it...." the older cow added.

"Well.... all I said was ""xiao chi bye!, lao chi bye!, the whole village of chi bye! chi bye! All chi bye!...""

** xiao chi - small chicken
**lao chi - big chicken
**chi - chicken.

Mean while I read this jokes from a fellow blogger known as Mystery Ladybird (I love her writings).

One day, a man who didn't feel quite well went to a private clinic for medical consultation. The clinic was full with out-patients and that made the nurse who was on duty at the registration counter had to give her service with quite a high tone of voice as it was very noisy at the time.

Nurse : Nama apa? ( Name please)

Man : Chern Ta Lek.

Nurse : Nama orang putih ada? (D you have any English name?)

The man looked to his right, then to his left then whisper softly his name..

Man : Teh Tarik..

Nurse : Apa??!!!!! (What??!!!)

The man looked irritated and said his name out loud

Man : TEH TARIK!!!

Everybody were quite and everything went in silence mode

p/s you will smile if you are a chinese reader but if you are not, you wouldn't find these jokes as funny at all.

Finally, it is set....

The wedding will be on 30th May 2008... Not by their choice but I guess we do have to consider the relatives from afar and I agree (Senah is hoping relatives as far from Miri and mom from Sibu and Kapit to attend). Tentatively we will do the reception at the Four Points by Sheraton (although in the midst of construction will be ready by then). We do have the menus. We are hoping for a fun, memorable wedding where three cultures; Bidayuh, Iban and Kayan will be united and I do hope David will consider it (if you are reading this - we want something unique...)

So this is my first report as tHe Wedding Planner.

Finally..... with courage I went....

Yeeaa... it was an issue that matters, really....

You know i was not feeling well for a couple of months now.......

Bruce said it's the tooth and nothing but the tooth...

So finally i made the appointment with Roki the Dentist a week prior.......

Hubby refused to come, he had to work anyway; so dragged Jaja, Beth and my dad together with ND to go with me......

Then when it was my turn...

I closed my eyes; refusing to look or try to imagine the syringes......

The assistant held my hands........

I squeezed it tightly.....

"It's going to hurt a bit" she said...

1..... 2..... 3.....

Nothing happened..

1.... 2.... 3.....

Hallelujah!!!!! The source of my sickness has left my body..... I am free.... I am free.... I am free..

I am alive.........

That was the only tooth I ever extracted since my school time.... COOoooL.......

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRLZZZ!!

My girl, Beth, turned 5 on 30th October2008. I wanted to give her that childhood memories of celebrating birthday. So got the whole family in the agenda and I was so happy with the result. I like to thank my brothers ND and David together with their girlfrens, Everlind and Senah, my sister Ivy and her children; Nevin, Nigel and Nuvall and of coz my beloved Ma and Abba and not forgetting my in-laws for taking care of my kids so I can get organized and my sister in-law Anna; who took care of the cake....

We celebrated her big day on 1st November, which happened to be 'mour' Bday also....... but I guess even though I was not the centre of attraction I was just as happy just by the look on her face and saw her smile on that day.....

Happy Birthday, Bethany Megan

ps. Many Happy returns of the day to me too..

These two are my event managers - I couldn't have done it without them.

OOHH... How I love the deco!!!!!!!

The most beautiful person on that day, looking very "mysterious"

Blowing the candles (Cake by Riverside Majestic/Crown Plaza)

EZRA NATHANIEL & SAMUEL KARUNIA

I'M A WEDDING PLANNER!!!!!!

Finally....Since it's in his blog I guess is also ok to put it in my blog. So, my youngest brother Abet 'melangkah bedul' over ND and going to get engaged to Senah Ukong. The wedding will be next year and I being busy body offered to be the wedding planner. It was actually a pack between I and ND(that I will be his when he tie the knot); mana tau jadi like this.

Well I will try, if Senah say yes too, bro..........

The meeting between the family will be in few weeks time and I guess I will update you guys on me as the wedding planner....

I AM BACK......

My PC Modem was struck by lightning and as a result I was unable to go online for a couple of weeks. Although the other half and I were on leave for few days last week, I found that with the children schooling, we still need to do the things we do every morning. So I does not really make any differences - unless it is school holidays. I was on sick leave for 1 1/2 days on Wed & Thur; came down with the flu virus. I slept the whole day on Thursday and today still recovering.

I wish to congrats Simon on his wedding day last week; 11Oct2008. It was a beautiful weddings and why I said weddings becoz it was a mass wedding . 7 couples got married at the same time that day. St. Anne was beautiful and it was like a garden's wedding. I love garden's wedding.... and talking about wedding, the family might have one next year...... Am so happy.....

Savor the pictures I took....

The church altar from where I was sitting with Jaja looking back at me.

Some of the couples

Simon and partner are second from right

P/s. You may check Abet's blog for some more photos.

GO, GIRL POWER!!!!!

I've been following certain TV drama-series and seems to be stuck and looking forward to watch it every week and no, its not the CSIs series; although Grisson still amuses me, I just don't understand why Fiona love Horatio.....anyway.....

It started with "Desperate Housewives" - then I got bored... The women seems to be having to much sex; if you know what I mean. I stopped watching becoz the series lack vision and like what I said - OVERSEXED!!!!!


Now, I am watching "Cashmere Mafia". Created by Kevin Wade, it tells of a group of successful female executives who have been friends since college turn to each other for guidance as they juggle their careers with family in New York City. This drama is starred by Lucy Liu as Mia Mason, Frances O'Connor as Zoe Burden, Miranda Otto as Juliet Drapper and Bonnie Somerville as Caitlin Dowd.



Another series is the "Lipstick Jungle" - A look at the lives of Nico(Kim Raver), Wendy(Brooke Shield), and Victory(Lindsay Price) -- three of "New York's 50 Most Powerful Women," according to The New York Post.

(Pics by The Internet Movie Database)

These are career women, successful, rich and everything a woman wish she is to be. Loads of self-esteem and power - you wish you taste a bit of their glamorous life, wish you have their power, their monies, lifestyle and even their men....

But hey.... although you learn a bit of facts of life in these drama- you laugh a little, smile a little and even cry a little - and while they are good entertainment materials, it doesn't happen in MY WORLD.

Back to reality. My body ache..... For the last couple of weeks, I had food allergies, toothache and painful gum (that made my entire right cheek hurt) and now am having sore throat + sinus. According to Bluce all it takes is a trip to Roki the Dentist...

I had the food allergies for 2 weeks and it showed-up every morning and night. I was never allergic to food; FOOD!!!!! that's my life you are talking about. I love FOOD!!!
So they asked me to list down the food I ate. Thank God am not allergic to PORK!!! Turn out I am not allergic to any food (I think). Emily said maybe I've been showering hot water and I think Abet also said the same thing...

Talk about FOOD. Last Friday the HfF team went to Sweet Happiness for our dinner.
Pictures paint a thousand words...

Emily and Chang telling the Chef what we want

That's the crab; delicious....

This is new - Chicken + herbs soup; cooked in coconut, not my cup of tea but some of the gang liked it..

Well enough said. Goodnite and have a productive day a head..

My New Toy... Happy Birthday Cat

My phone died on me a couple of days ago. Somehow I feel like a left hand had been chopped-off. Hubby was reluctant to give me his "left hand" so promised to buy me one. Yeah... we went phone hunting yesterday but what he forgot to tell me was his budget. Anyway, he was kind enough to fulfill my dream..

I have always like this one... so thanks Hon;(I luv you). So I got myself a Nokia 6500 Slide.

I love this phone for a simple fact that I can download photos straight to my pc to my blog so I don't have to wait for anybody to download it from their camera for me and another bonus is I can YAHOO!!! Yahoooooo.....



















I like to wish Catherine a "Happy Birthday - many happy returns of the day. May you bless others like you've been blessed and wherever you are; we are thinking of you."

(Pic by Cat- when she makan angin kat States)